I’ve never been great at being in a long distance relationship. In fact, I’ve only had one, and I ended up cheating on him. That's the one way to ruin it. I knew going into it that I wouldn’t be a good candidate for long distance love. I need physical touch, quality time, and acts of service to feel loved, and it’s almost impossible to do those when your partner is five hundred miles away.
However, even I must admit that long distance relationships can and do work. Unfortunately, I learned these lessons too late. It’s all about the effort that you both put into it. Setting aside time to spend together and being honest with each other about your feelings are important. Being respectful and trusting of your partner are even more so.
But what about the sexual aspects of your relationship? If you’re anything like me, you find yourself getting pretty frustrated hanging up the phone without getting some hot & heavy time in with your partner. How can you stay loyal and help your connection grow when the sexual tension is high and the time you can spend together is short, and usually on the phone?
Long distance relationships are never easy.The relationship that you want to last is only a middle of the night booty call away from being destroyed.
There is a large amount of trust and patience that has to be had on both ends of the relationship. It’s difficult to trust someone you live with, let alone your long distance lover who is running in different social circles. And then there is the longing you get from missing them.
Are you bitter and frustrated? Is that attitude starting to come out a little? It’s very common and nothing to be ashamed of. I remember watching the sweet commercials for long distance calls that would show a couple saying I love you over and over again. It isn’t realistic.
But, as difficult as it may be, it is completely possible to have a very satisfying long distance relationship. Here are 5 tips to consider and chat with your partner about.
1. Tech helps out a lot.
When you’re seeing your partner every day, it’s easy to get lazy about how you are communicating. Don’t fall into the same when it comes to your long distance relationship.
Talk to your partner and find a time that you can both commit to video chatting or having a phone call. This way you can have the feeling of spending time without spending the money on dinner or a movie.
I also suggest sending sexy texts or even mailing handwritten letters to one another. There is something really delicious about knowing your partner took time to think about you and write you something kinky.
The one thing to keep in mind is, no matter how you communicate, find a way to flirt with one another.
2. Set a date.
Put together a special date night every once and while. Both order the same type of food to be delivered, set up a little wine and dine set up, and enjoy each other’s company over video chat.
Getting dressed up, putting on makeup, and feeling pretty while you chat with your partner will help the conversation stay away from only talking about how much you miss one another.
3. Use your imagination.
The best part of a phone call sex session is that the scenario can be anything you want. There are no limits to where you find yourself with your partner in phone sex.
Between video chatting and phone sex, you can act out your deepest fantasies with your partner.
Open your mind and let yourself get into a really hot scenario with your partner, creating a connection in what is often seen as a disconnected way to have sex.
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4. Masturbate for your partner.
Set up a time to masturbate on the phone or over video chat while you watch your partner do the same. Mutual masturbation is very sexy and gets your engine running while still including your partner. Spice it up with some long distance adult toys.
You can do this together while on the couch or in a hotel or just anytime you feel really turned on, you can call your partner and get off with them.
5. Talk about porn.
Sending each other links to porn is a great way to communicate what turns you on without feeling awkward about it. Find a way to watch porn to together.
Getting more in tune with you partner now means you have to include them when you are playing with yourself.
Have your partner pick out a video to watch or watch the same flick together over video chat. Maybe use adult toys to simulate sex over long distance call. Nothing gets you off faster than doing it with your partner.
Long distance relationships can be difficult, but no matter how far away you two are from one another it is always possible to make it work. Find out what works best for both of you, keep an open mind, and know that you can have a deeply satisfying relationship with your partner no matter the miles that separate you.